Some of you more practical individuals have no doubt been desiring to read about the more practical side of the end of life scenario. I’ve done a little bit of research into this aspect of preparing for the final transition, and here’s what I’ve come up with.
First, a lovely quote from Respecting Choices that reminds us that planning for the end of life needs to be an ongoing process that is fluid and flexible – always open to the changes and vicissitudes of life:
One of the greatest misconceptions about advanced care planning is that it is a static process, a one-time event. Attempting to plan for all possibilities in a single document or at a single point in time is both impossible and unnecessary.
Every state has its own end-of-life related laws and regulations. A wonderful resource that we have here in Washington state is End of Life Washington. This is a website and an office in Seattle – formerly Compassion & Choices of Washington – which guides people in planning for the final days of their lives. They can be reached at: 877.222.2816 or 206.256.1636.
End of Life Washington provides free end-of-life counseling and client support services statewide to “qualified patients” desiring a “peaceful death.”
Staff members encourage advance planning and set a new standard in Washington state for advance planning documents with their End of Life Washington Advance Directive, one of the best advance directives available in the United States.
They promote the use of Physician Orders for Life-Sustaining Treatment (POLST form, a medical form for emergencies) for those living with serious illnesses. They provide these and many other documents at no cost.
They created and played a key role in leading the coalition that passed Initiative 1000 (the Washington Death with Dignity Act) into law in November, 2008 with nearly 60 percent of the popular vote. They now steward, protect, and uphold this law. For details, see this link.
They advocate for better pain management, patient-directed end-of-life care, and expanded choice for the terminally ill. They do not suggest, encourage, or promote suicide or euthanasia.
And there is never a fee for their services.
I discovered through the Senior Center in Shelton that Julie Cook is an attorney in town who specializes in end-of-life related issues, including wills and estate plans. She comes to the Senior Center at least a few times a year to offer a free hour-long talk for members. She’ll be coming again in March or April, so contact the Shelton Senior Center (360-426-7374) if you have an interest in this.
The Advance Directive is basically an expression of your wishes around life support issues. There are Health Care directives that you can work on to plan ahead related specifically to your health care needs; there is also a Physician’s (Final) Directive – the “unplug me papers” – that you can work on with your physician. You may want to consider appointing a Health Care Power of Attorney as well a Financial Power of Attorney for your end of life time when you may not be able to make your own decisions. By appointing a Financial Power of Attorney, it’s sometimes possible to avoid a guardianship, which can be quite costly.
And then there are other organizations that help people begin the end of life care conversations, such as the Five Wishes – “changing the way we talk about and plan for care at the end of life” and the Conversation Project – “dedicated to helping people talk about end-of-life care.”
Finally, I wanted to mention – for those who have connections in Seattle – that a friend in Seattle was able to receive help with a will and a Health Care Directive through an attorney who she found at the Seattle Senior Services at 206.448.5720. For Seattle residents, a packet of information, including a worksheet which assists in gathering the information needed for the documents, can be requested and received. At the one-hour FREE appointment with the attorney, the following two documents were produced: A last will and testament and a durable power of attorney for health care and health care directive.
Blessings of courage and love to all as we take practical steps to face the end of life, and especially as we take the steps to have those important and necessary conversations with family and loved ones.