Spiritual guide may help the dying take their next step

As the time of your or your loved one’s death nears, it may be helpful to keep a picture of your beloved spiritual teacher or guide nearby. I sometimes recommend to people who are virtually bedridden that they might place a picture of Jesus, Mother Mary, Buddha, or their favorite spiritual guide on the wall by the end of their bed. This way, whenever their eyes are open, they will see and be reminded of their beloved one, to whom they may well be returning.

I had an interesting experience with a gentleman who was on our hospice over a lengthy period. I actually got to know Jerry’s dear wife much better than I did Jerry, because she was very open and curious about spiritual matters. I sensed she wanted to learn and grow through her husband’s experience. About a week before Jerry died, she told me he had asked her for a picture of Jesus to place at the foot of his bed. She had found a lovely, rather unusual, framed picture of Jesus that they had in their possession. She believed it gave Jerry much comfort to see Jesus at the end of his bed as he prepared to enter the spiritual realm.

In another situation, I recall meeting the wife of a gentleman I came to know on hospice. The gentleman was in a room in an adult family home and could no longer speak. However, I got to meet his wife one day and she told me about the beautiful picture that was hanging on the wall at the foot of his bed. It turned out that his wife had wanted to find something to place there that would remind him of where he was going. She searched in religious bookstores, but found nothing. Then, when she was in a Michaels craft store, she found a beautiful poster of the Earth Angel, by Josephine Wall, a British artist. She decided it was exactly what she was looking for and posted it at the foot of her husband’s bed.

I was so taken by Josephine’s “Earth Angel” and its beauty that I went out and found a copy of it at a Michael’s myself and mounted it on a strong, wooden purple frame. It became my muse for this work. Eventually, I was able to get permission from Josephine’s agent, and Earth Angel is now on the cover of my second book, The Most Important Day of Your Life: Are You Ready? It is a reminder to me of the peace and harmony that is coming to planet earth, especially as we do our “work” around death, grief, and the mystery of life – releasing the fear that still remains, of the unknown.

Chanting and repeating the name of a spiritual leader or guide is also said to be a powerful way to die. The person who is dying can do this, if he or she is conscious and desires to do so. Otherwise, in planning ahead, a loved one who is with the person as death nears might practice this on the loved one’s behalf. Anya Foos-Graber, author of Deathing: An Intelligent Alternative for the Final Moments of Life, writes about this technique in Chapter 23 of Experiencing the Soul. She says that invoking the name of a spiritual being or master, one who is “one with God,” is a meaningful way to approach death.

In response to the question, “Why is the moment of death so important for the progress of the soul?” Foos-Graber responds: “Many spiritual traditions teach that whatever one focuses on at this moment casts the ‘flavor’ atmosphere of what occurs after physical death. The way we die…has a profound corresponding effect for our state in the afterlife.”

She goes on to share that just as first impressions are important when we meet someone for the first time, so are our last impressions. We can leave a good “mark” on the “cosmic memory banks of the Universal Mind” when we focus on God/dess through a divine being who is powerfully connected to All That Is.

 


Remembering and activating the power of prayer

I was visiting a woman on our hospice at an adult family home one day. One of the women living in the home asked me if I was the “prayer giver.” I was pleasantly surprised by what I thought she’d said. After double-checking that I had heard her correctly, I responded that yes, indeed, I was the prayer giver.

Reflecting on what this stranger asked me left me pondering my role of spiritual counselor. Perhaps the most important thing I do with the people I visit is to remind them of their own spiritual power. I help them to connect or reconnect to Spirit.

At the end of almost every visit, I ask the person or people I’ve been speaking with if they’d like to close with a prayer. The response is almost always positive. Once in a while, a person will tell me that they’d rather not pray with me, usually because they feel it’s a very private matter. However, rarely have my hospice families turned me down when I offer to keep them in my prayers.

Prayer is our finest and most direct way to be in touch with the Divine. I highly recommend that you make this connection regularly. It is such a simple thing to do, too: Just open your heart and share your thoughts and feelings with the Divine, however you are comfortable doing so. Then, I encourage you to keep your heart open, and listen and pay attention to what the Divine might have to share with you.

Growing up as a missionary kid, I learned to pray as a wee little one. And I always sensed that there was a kind of special power in prayer. However, it wasn’t until I started doing hospice work and began to learn about the metaphysical that I began to discover the Laws of the Universe. It turns out that it is one of the Laws of the Universe that spirit cannot intercede in our lives without our permission. So, if you do not ask for the help of the spiritual realm, their hands are tied. They cannot help you unless they receive your permission. Or I suppose that permission can come from someone else? A friend or family member, for example.

If you would like an anonymous person to call and pray with you, I invite you to call Silent Unity at (816) 969-2000, or (800) NOW-PRAY (669-7729). They are connected to the Unity Church headquarters in Unity Village, Missouri, where they have a 24-hour hotline that anyone can call any time.

After a gentle soul prays with you over the phone, Unity also keeps praying with you for the next 30 days. I have used them on occasion, when I needed someone to join me in prayer about something close to my heart. I have never been disappointed. If you are not comfortable calling them, please contact a local church, synagogue, mosque, temple, shrine, or religious organization that you do feel comfortable calling. Or feel free to contact me about your prayer concerns! I’m happy to pray with or for someone, always. It is good that you are connected to others when you pray, and your prayers will be more powerful, too.

I will be offering her classes at Brilliant Moon again in March (Joyful Transitions) and April (Essential Oils and Transitions). Please call Brilliant Moon to register: 868-2190. I also do some powerful Auric Clearings as part of her energy work repertoire. Contact me for more information on this “Clearing out the Old” work. It will help you Welcome in the New in your life!

 


Could the entire world be on hospice?

The brilliance of the Heart

We are at a very interesting time in human history. The New Thought people call this the time of the Shift of the Ages. Many long-term time cycles – to the tune of 26,000 years, are merging together and a great deal of love and light frequency is coming onto the planet. This is why the entire world – and what we’re used to – seems to be “going crazy,” especially when you watch the news.

I’ve coming to see this phenomenon as though the whole world is “on hospice.” We must die to the old so that the new may come in and take shape on the planet. And many so-called “Light-workers” are here, holding the possibility for this. Many religions tell of a time of Great Peace and Healing that’s coming. There is great change at this time, but it is for a good purpose. We are moving toward a much higher and vibrant way of living. In time, Love and Peace will rule the earth, as has been prophesied by the prophets.

Because we are moving through this time of deep change and transformation, we have much to learn from the dying. They have the secrets to help us move through change in a good way. And I outline some of these secrets in my book, The Most Important Day of Your Life: Are You Ready? I will highlight a few of these points here.

I believe that the most important piece here is letting go of judgment: Many people before they die must do some kind of forgiveness work. It’s time to let go of old grudges and resentments.

Since the person is getting ready to leave the planet, if they want to connect with those they love, they must “clear the slate” in some fashion, letting go of old judgments that no longer serve. After all, when we continue to hold these judgments, we’re the ones who hurt, we lose out. And why wait, until we’re on our deathbed to do this? Why not clear the slate whenever we can – whenever we think of it?

The best way to do this is to move from the heady “critical eye” down to the open heart. When we move to the heart, we can let people off the hook, give them the benefit of the doubt. I believe that now is a good time to do that. Rather than carrying around many judgments and grudges, making others out to be the “bad ones,” we can come into the heart and love and honor everyone.

Give them the benefit of the doubt, especially in these times of great change. What if we could see that everyone is actually doing “the best that they can?” And when we send out love in their direction, this is the best Medicine we can send them.

The next important piece to me is there is so much more than meets the eye. This is something I learned through working with hospice. So many mystical things happened to those around me, those who were preparing for death and those who were on the receiving end of it, those who were grieving. I was privy to hearing so many stories that I came to understand that what we can see, feel, and touch, taste and smell on this earth is just the tip of the iceberg.

We truly do not know a lot of what is going on or who is around us, and so it’s best to humble ourselves, realize that we can’t analyze or explain it all, and simply “go with the flow” as much as possible. Life is an adventure, a miracle, really! And the more we see and bless it as that, the more it will bless us.

The third and last point I’d like to make here is the interconnectedness of everything. This relates to the piece I just mentioned, but there is no question in my mind now that on some powerful level, we are connected and there’s a magic that flows through our lives when we can let go and let the magic happen.

I’ve learned that at the Higher Self level – we all have a Higher Self that we are guided by – we are all connected. That’s why, when we pray for someone, they can feel it on some level. I remember how my sister once told me that as she was coming out of her surgery, she sensed and even saw, our dad and myself praying for her.

Do not underestimate the value of praying for someone, or simply holding them with good thoughts in your heart. This is what our pets do for us all the time, I believe.

I will be teaching a class this evening on Joyful Transitions and one on the essential oils and transitions in early February at the Brilliant Moon in Shelton. Please contact them for details: (360) 868-2190.

For those of you feeling “stuck” in your life in any way, I would highly recommend that you look into my energy work – and Auric Clearing in particular – if you’d like to clear out some of that negative energy that’s living in your field. One Auric Clearing could be life transformative! Plus, it’s wonderful preventative health care, too! See details here.

This conversation is to be continued, and we welcome your stories, questions and comments around these topics.

 


Is Speaking about death becoming fashionable?

Have you heard of the Death Cafe? Death Cafe is a worldwide movement that’s helping to bring out the taboo topic of death into the public arena. This movement began in the U.K. – and before that in Switzerland –  three and a half years ago. There have been many more than 1,000 death cafes by now around the world.

At a Death Cafe (www.deathcafe.com) people, often strangers, in a given city or neighborhood gather at a given location that’s private and comfortable – cafe, bookstore, home, etc. – to eat something sweet, drink tea, and talk about death. The idea is “to increase awareness of death with a view to helping people make the most of their (finite) lives.”

A Death Cafe is a gathering of people dedicated to the discussion of death with no agenda, objectives, or themes. It’s a discussion group rather than a grief support or counseling session.

Death Cafes are always offered:

– On a non-profit basis

– In an accessible, confidential, and respectful place

– With no intention of leading people to any particular conclusion, product, or course of action

– Alongside refreshing drinks and nourishing foods – and cake, or sweets of some kind, of course!

I have attended my share of Death Cafes; in Sedona, AZ, I even helped to start one. My experience of them are quite varied and have always left me feeling very good. In general, they seem to attract a variety of ages and people.

Almost always, the people who attend have been touched by death or grief – sometimes recently and sometimes many years ago. They are people who are eager to share their experiences, perhaps because in many places still today, death is a taboo topic.

Two people – a friend and myself – led the Death Cafe I helped start in Sedona. We got the inspiration to start one because, surprisingly, no one had started one in Sedona. We led the Cafe in a private home once a month for about five months, through one summer. Most sessions we had a good eight to ten people attending. There were older individuals facing death themselves; there were individuals who had experienced powerful NDEs (near death experiences). We also had people and friends who were just curious attending and checking out the group. It was a most worthwhile experience. Eventually, the energy for the group dwindled, and my friend had to focus on other things, so we had to close the Death Cafe.

About the same time, another group ran a Death Cafe for just one time in a neighboring town. They used an assisted care facility and publicized it in a big way. They had a large group attending, – 30 plus – but  they decided to have it be a one-time experience. People sat at small tables in a large room to speak in small groups during the Cafe.

I invite you to look into the Death Cafe movement and see if there happens to be one in your community. If not, you could always start one, perhaps with a friend who’s interested in the topic as well. Here’s a link that will guide you in the process: http://deathcafe.com/how/.

By the way, I know for a fact that there is a Death Cafe happening in Olympia. It usually meets on the last Wednesday of the month, at the Obsidian Cafe, 414 Fourth Ave. E. – in Olympia. They have a Facebook page as well: https://www.facebook.com/olympiadeathcafe/.

I will be teaching a class later this month on “joyful transitions” and one on the essential oils and transitions in early February at the Brilliant Moon in Shelton. Please contact them for details. (360) 868-2190.death cafe, Olympia

This conversation is to be continued, and we welcome your stories, questions and comments around these topics.


What exactly is “nearing death awareness”?

The Last Adventure of Life

This is Maria Dancing Heart’s First Book

While growing up in Japan I used to hear the phrase omukae ga kuru, which means “your Welcome,” or “Welcome Wagon” comes.” This reference is to the spirit or spirits, typically those who are known and loved by the dying person, who come to the dying one, usually just some days or even hours before the person is ready to make the journey to the other side.

Doing the work of helping people make their final transition here in the United States, I learned that this Welcome is not just a Japanese or Buddhist experience, but universal one. Often, dying people are greeted and welcomed by those they love who have already made their transition to the other side. And as you can imagine, it is typically a very comforting, healing, and even energizing experience. I now know that this is known as the “nearing death awareness” phenomenon here in the United States.

Once, on our hospice unit, we were caring for a man who had taken very good care of his mother at the end of her life, some years ago. Now, it was his turn to be making the passage across to the other side. Just a few days before making his transition, he began to experience his mother coming to him from the next realm to say “hello.” Altogether he had three visitations from her before he died. He shared these incidents with the hospice team, and we were all grateful to know he was comforted and guided in this way through his last adventure of life.

The following is a story around this “Being in the presence of someone not alive” theme that I found in a beautiful spiritual book by two hospice nurses. In this book, Maggie Callanan and Patricia Kelley share many mystical things encounters that happened to them while doing hospice work. Final Gifts (1992), is a “must read” for all those who do hospice work.

Martha

Martha was in her early sixties, dying of uterine cancer which had spread throughout her pelvis. A widow, she’d lived for many years with her daughter and family.

Martha’s experience with unseen people was not very dramatic, but her reaction was typical. She wasn’t at all surprised or upset by it, and was even able to express her pleasure at seeing what no one else could see.

Several weeks before she died, Martha said to me, “Do you know who the little girl is?”

“Which little girl?” I asked.

“You know, the one who comes to see me,” she said. “The one the others can’t see.”

Martha described several visitors unseen by others. She knew most of them—her parents and sisters, all of whom were dead—but couldn’t identify a child who appeared with them. That didn’t bother her.

“Don’t worry,” she told me, “I’ll figure it out before I go, or I’ll find out when I get there. Have you seen them?”

“No, I haven’t,” I said. “But I believe that you do. Are they here now?”

“They left a little while ago,” Martha said. “They don’t stay all the time; they just come and go.”

“What is it like when they’re here?” I asked.

“Well, sometimes we talk, but usually I just know that they’re here,” Martha said. “I know that they love me, and that they’ll be here with me when it’s time.”

“When it’s time…?”

“When I die,” Martha said matter-of-factly.

This story can be found on p. 87-88 of Final Gifts. Another magnificent story tells about a dying daughter who was waiting for a  “necessary reconciliation” to happen with her father before her transition. You can read the true story about Theresa on pp. 142 – 143 in Final Gifts. I was given permission to share these stories in my book, The Last Adventure of Life, too, by the authors. I highly recommend both books – and all the stories and reflections shared in them – especially for people caring for their beloved Loved Ones who are aging or near their end of life.

I would very much like this Column to be relevant for you readers. And this “conversation” is to continue, so please share with us your stories, questions and comments around these topics.


Understanding the Power of NDEs

One of the most profoundly loving, mystical experiences a person can have in life is a so-called “near-death experience” or NDE.

This typically happens when a person is very ill or close to death. Dr. Jeffrey Long reports that a 1992 Gallup Poll offered an estimate that 13 million Americans had experienced an NDE. The population of the U.S. in 1992 was approximately 260 million which leads to an estimate of NDE prevalence of roughly 5% – at least in 1992.

The individual is usually transported out of his or her body and into another reality that is blissful and heavenly. Dr. Melvin Morse, a well-known pediatrician in the Puget Sound area, is known for talking about and working with children who have had NDEs. I recommend Closer to the Light a beautiful book with many accounts by children about their NDEs. Many children have not only had these experiences, but they share with others that their lives have been categorically changed by their experiences. Dr. Morse has written about this in his book, Transformed by the Light (Morse 1992).

I have had the privilege of getting to know a number of people who have experienced NDEs, through both my hospice work and my life at large. One such person I reconnected with while living on Whidbey Island was Edmond Nickson. Edmond is a spiritually tuned-in, energetic man around 80 years old now. He knows who he is, and knows that he has been and continues to be guided continuously in his life.

I am deeply grateful to him for his help in editing my first book, The Last Adventure of Life. In the course of our conversations and work on my book, he agreed to write several pages that tell of his special relationship with the divine throughout his life as a result of an NDE that took place early in his life. (see pages 33-35 in the 1st edition of The Last Adventure of Life and pp. 35-37 in the 4th edition)

Recently, thanks to my work with radio show host Joseph Varley, I have come to know Sharon Milliman, a woman who has had two NDEs in her life, one when she was 13 years old and one as an adult. I was able to ask her some questions and here are her responses:

1) What was the best part about having NDEs?

My favorite parts of my NDE’s were being in the presence of God, seeing His face and feeling His all encompassing and complete love. It was a love beyond all human words. Sitting with Him and having conversation, laughing with Him, getting to experience and know that God has a personality, and know also that He never judges us. All He does is Love us. Also, learning that we are never separated from Him. Through my conversation, I found out that He made us. He is in us and when we look in the mirror we see Him.

2) What did you like least about your NDEs?

Having an NDE is an extremely spiritual experience and most people don’t understand how it can affect your life. At first I was isolated, and frightened. I had no words to describe what had happened. I had never heard of NDEs before even though I had had one earlier in my life. I had no label to put on the experience. I found people to be cruel upon my return from Heaven, they were labeling me as crazy, and I knew that wasn’t true. You can see more at this link. This is a page that explains so much about the after affects of NDEs. At this time I am in the Phase 3.

3) How have the NDEs transformed your life? What’s different?

They have changed my life in that I no longer fear death. I know life goes on and where we will go when our life here is done. And I know we do see our loved ones again. (One of big pieces in Sharon’s second NDE was that she got to meet up with her two brothers who had died while still young.) I have purpose and a mission: To spread the messages He gives me and to give people hope.

You can go to Sharon Goetemann Milliman‘s Facebook page and see more of her beautiful writings about her NDEs. (look under her “Notes”)

Last December, Sharon was interviewed for a National Geographic documentary on NDEs. This National Geographic Documentary will be featured in the up coming program called “Return from the Dead.” It will air on April 17th at 10 p.m., Eastern Time, on the National Geographic Channel.

This conversation is to be continued, and we welcome your stories, questions and comments around these topics.


Why do we Americans fear death so much?

So why is it that Americans fear death so – especially in our modern world?

First of all, perhaps death is not what most of us have been told it is – something scary to hide and avoid?

In my experience from doing hospice for years, my conclusion is that there’s actually nothing to fear about death itself. (See my first article titled “Death Nothing to Fear”).

In fact, understanding and learning about death can open up and enhance our lives tremendously.

If you’re interested in more specifics, I wrote about all the ways that my spiritual life was enhanced and expanded through doing hospice counseling work in my second book, The Most Important Day of Your Life, Are You Ready?

So if we’ve been sold a bill of goods around death, perhaps it’s time that we uncover the Truth and make friends with it.

After all, it’s been perched on our shoulders since our birth; and most of us do not have any idea when “our time” will come to us. Of course that’s perhaps another obvious reason we tend to fear it: It’s the Unknown, and the time death comes to “take us Home” tends to be out of our control.

Perhaps another reason we’re so awkward around death is that as Rabbi Schachter-Shalomi, one of the founding fathers of the Jewish Renewal Movement said, during the last 100 years, modern medicine has taken death to the hospital. And God bless the Rabbi’s soul – a well known teacher in the area of conscious aging in Boulder, CO – he made his final transition himself, just over a year ago.

For that matter, we’ve taken birth to the hospital for the most part, too.

Another reason we fear death here in the United States may have to do with the “fire and brimstone” approach to religion and the influence that conservative Christianity has had in our culture over the years.

The puritanical tendency that our “founding fathers and mothers” had and the neo-conservative Christian perspective continues to uphold the Old Time Religion perspective that is full of threats about “going to hell” or “burning in hell” if you didn’t live the perfect religious life.

When I spoke with people on hospice who were church goers much of their life, and asked them “Aren’t you looking forward to going to heaven and seeing Jesus, your family, and friends?”

I was surprised by how many would respond, “Well, I hope you’re right.” They often didn’t seem convinced about an afterlife, and certainly not about going to heaven and meeting up with Jesus.

One day, while driving around visiting my hospice people, I came across the bumper sticker, “Don’t Die Wondering”!

I thought to myself, that’s it, that may well be it: Perhaps when we die, we get what we think and expect we’re going to get?

If we believe in a benevolent afterlife, and think we’re going to heaven, that’s where we’ll go; and if we believe that we deserve to go to some place like “hell,” perhaps that’s what we’ll get – at least for a period of time?

I still say that in the end, the most important thing for us to do in our “death denying culture” is to start communicating with others about death. And especially if you have someone in your family who’s moving through the experience of a serious illness or some kind of threat to their life, it may be a very kind gesture to open up the conversation, at least to see if they might like to speak about it.

Who’s to say you might have the most enlightening and important conversation of your life?

By the way, there’s an organization that began in 2010 in the United Kingdom that’s taking hold around the world these days. It’s called the Death Cafe. This is an organization that helps to create space where people can go to have open discussions on all aspects around death and dying.

death cafe, Olympia

The idea is to gather people together who are interested in speaking about death and let them share tea and cake (goodies) along with conversation. Anyone interested can start a Death Cafe; and they are sprouting up around the world, literally. You can see more here.

Lastly, I leave you with the question, why do you fear death?

Why do you feel that so many people are afraid of death?

What is going on such that we find it challenging to see that “death is like taking off a tight shoe that no longer fits,” most liberating!

This conversation is to be continued, and we welcome your stories, questions and comments around these topics.


Death nothing to fear

We live in a culture where it has been rubbed into us in every conceivable way that to die is a terrible thing. And that is a tremendous disease from which our culture in particular suffers.”

– Alan Watts

If you think that death is final and you do not go on, do we have a message for you.

Death is not what most of us have been told it is. There is actually nothing to fear about death itself. It is simply the process that all of us will one day go through – to leave our body and return to our true home, the spiritual realm. It is actually a “home-going,” as the African American tradition has always said. And it is Graduation Time! – a time when the individual has accomplished what he or she came to do on earth, so they get to graduate; we can be very happy for those who are about to move into the spiritual realm.

Did you know that Plato once said that “Death is the greatest of all human blessings”? And Mother Teresa once wrote that “death … is only the easiest and quickest means to go back to God. … We come from God and we have to go back to (God)!” After all, especially those of us who have some kind of faith and spiritual background, have a “knowing” that there is something beyond what we can see, hear, touch, smell, and feel here on earth.

One of the things many years of hospice experience has powerfully taught me is: “There’s so much more than meets the eye!” In the Christian tradition we are taught through Jesus that we can be assured that there is life beyond this earth: in other words, eternal life.

I sometimes even wonder if we’ve been sold “a bill of goods” around death. After all, between our modern medicine and medical system that strives to fix everyone, at all costs!, and our cultural religion that rarely speaks openly about death – it’s usually only around Lent or Holy Week when ministers speak mostly about Jesus’s death. Rabbi Schacter-Shalomi, one of the Fathers of the Jewish Renewal Movement and an expert in conscious aging said that it’s only during the last 100 years that we’ve become awkward around death because we’ve taken it to the hospital.

This rings very true for me. I would invite you to watch the beautiful film City of Angels to see how angry physicians – in this case Meg Ryan – can get when their patient dies on their shift, or their operating table.

One of the most uplifting accounts of a death that I’ve heard about came through my Aunt Gladys. Gladys was my uncle’s mother, a highly intuitive woman who sometimes saw spirits. She was a great teacher to me when I was just starting hospice work. She knew a young woman whose mother had died. This woman was deeply spiritual, the kind who would make friends with the cashiers at Safeway, for example. Just before her death, this woman sat up in bed and was heard saying, “I see hundreds of angels!” My question is: If death is such an amazingly loving and mystical experience, why do we continue to have so much fear around it? Why are we afraid to speak of it? And prepare for it? After all, it’s the adventure of a lifetime.

Then there’s Betty Eadie’s story. She is a woman who had one of the most thorough near death experiences on record. And she’s written about it in a beautiful little book called Embraced by the Light. Betty is a Mormon woman of Native American descent. After a surgery she had in the hospital, she lost a lot of blood. In her hospital room, she has just heard a rushing sound and finds her “new spiritual body” moving with an enormous energy. She is carried by this mysterious energy through a dark tunnel in which she senses other people, as well as animals, traveling with her.

As she travels through the tunnel, Betty sees a pinpoint of light toward the end of the tunnel. She felt herself traveling through this tunnel-like space with a great speed, “rushing toward the light.” She was attracted toward it and began to notice a figure of a man standing in this light that became brilliant – so brilliant, even more than the sun – such that she knew that no human eyes could look upon the light “without being destroyed.” Only “spiritual eyes” could appreciate it. (For more see Betty J. Eadie‘s book, Embraced by the Light)

This being of light turned out to be Betty’s savior and friend, Jesus Christ, who she now knew had always loved her, even when she had thought he hated her.

So let us acknowledge that death is a natural, normal part of the Cycle of Life. It’s not the ‘enemy’ or boogeyman in the closet. We can all speak openly about death, in fact we need to, to normalize it and embrace it, as part of life. After all, as Clarissa Pinkola Estes shares in one of her beautiful stories, death has been perched on our shoulder since our birth. So we need to make friends with it. Sometimes, I say, the dying are dying to talk about death, when the entire family is tiptoeing around a very important topic! This even happens when people are on hospice, believe it or not.

Let me share a little bit from the Buddhist perspective. The Buddhist view is that life here on earth is “an illusion” – kind of like “Row, row, row your boat, gently down the stream… Life is but a dream!” Perhaps it would be useful to take all of life, including death, a little bit less seriously?

The channeled being Abraham says that instead of using the word death, or dead, we need to use the word “croak,” or “croaked.” And I’m reminded of a beautiful volunteer, Buddhist firefighter I met on Whidbey Island when my first book, The Last Adventure of Life, had just been published. The two of us got into a conversation about my new book in a small natural goods shop on the Island, and this kind young man said to me: “In Buddhism, Maria, birth is the hard part. Death is easy, because we have the whole rest of our lives to prepare for it.”

Wow, what a concept – I’d love to get this idea out to the whole of our country – and world even.

This conversation is to be continued, and we welcome your stories, questions and comments around these topics.

Published in Mason County Journal: 9/24/15