Sometimes a peaceful passage needs permission

I was at the Sages Group of the Center for Spiritual Living in Seattle last week when reminded of a unique, lovely little book I discovered in Sedona about creating more peace and freedom around how we die.

The book is entitled Peaceful Passing: Die When You Choose with Dignity & Ease, by Robert S. Wood.

This is a most helpful book for people who desire to be well prepared for death – and take the matter – as much as that is possible – into their own hands. Wood uses material from Abraham’s work, which is channeled material, and keeps the topic of death “lighter.” He helps you see that when the time comes, you can help yourself gentle release your own life force and gradually “let go” into the next realm.

Wood begins his book like this: “This is the happiest little book you’ll ever read about death because it offers exciting good news. Like enlightened people worldwide, you can learn to take charge of your peaceful, natural dignified death. You can die without drugs or the stigma of suicide or euthanasia. It’s the ultimate solution to life’s universal problem,” and Wood goes on to share that it’s about gaining control over the end of your life.

This takes the “terror” away from dying and restores peace and freedom to the rest of your life as well. Makes sense, no?

This little book, Wood tells us, is the first of its kind to offer “a simple, natural, non-violent, dignified option for the peaceful self-delivery” that channeled beings from the other side suggest for us. He goes on to say that this is an ancient practice that’s been long forgotten by societies. It’s the “path of passing” that’s decided primarily by the individual; it’s for people who believe that we have the “absolute right to decide how and when we die.”

I particularly like the letter that Wood composed for his friend Tom who was in the process of dying in a hospital. He knew the man and his wife as dear personal friends, and he saw how the two of them were struggling around Tom’s final transition. He offered to Tom’s wife Mary that he could write a letter to encourage Tom to “let go,” if and when he personally felt the time was right. He begins this letter on p. 27 with these words:

Dear Tom,

From what Mary tells me, you’re lying around in bed loafing. We miss you out here on the trail. It would be great to have you back hiking with us again. …

            But if you’re just too darn tired and it’s not worth the struggle, it’s okay to just kick back   and let go.

Wood goes on to share personal things with Tom, reminding him that he’s “got nothing left to prove.” And if there’s not much left to look forward to any longer, and it’s getting to be too much trouble to “hang on, why not take a rest?” he quips. “It’s okay to say ‘enough’!”

In essence, it’s time to give yourself permission to let go and enjoy the huge “relief at the end of the trail. You’ve earned it,” he suggests, as a great friend would, to Tom. “Just go to sleep” and decide “to wake up in heaven.” Wood ends this letter of encouragement with this closing:

We’ll look forward, dear friend, to seeing you again — on this side or the other — here or hereafter.

            So be good to yourself and do what deep down feels best.

            Happy trails, Your buddy, Bob (p. 28)

Two days after Wood wrote this letter to Tom, his wife called to let him know that Tom had died, peacefully, in his sleep.

Sometimes we humans just need to know that our loved ones will be “okay” with our big decisions in life. And it helps when we can hear from them their perspective on what we are dealing with. This comes up again and again around the topic of dying.

If you are the kind of person who believes in his or her “right to decide how and when we die,” I suggest you take a look at Robert Wood’s book.

Although Wood makes it sound very easy, perhaps we sometimes make death more complicated than it needs to be?

He shares that his book can show you how to die consciously and deliberately, when you desire to, rather than unconsciously or when you feel that you have to.

Wood’s conclusion is: “Just go to sleep intending to wake up on the other side. If you desire or need is great enough, you can make the transition at a moment’s notice. No advance preparation in necessary – although it helps.”

Have we piqued your curiosity? If so I invite you to check out: Peaceful Passing. It’s a book like no other out there – at least at this time.

Maria will facilitate another one of her classes – on transitions and the essential oils – today, at 5:30 PM at the Brilliant Moon. For details, call: 868-2190.

The Last Adventure of Life (Australian Edition)

The Last Adventure of Life (Australian Edition)


Sometimes suicide happens – what do you do during this difficult time?

This week, someone in my circle of life committed suicide. She was someone who had moved to our community last fall, alone. She was a fragile, young woman.

Nevertheless, it came as a tremendous shock to all concerned, especially because her life was turning around, seemingly in a positive way. Everyone involved was mystified and wondering what in heaven’s name had caused this to happen – particularly at this time.

It seems like a lot of our psychic energy has been spent on trying to understand what exactly happened to cause this tragedy. This is something that happens after most suicides take place. We wonder and reflect on what exactly could have happened, and how this sad event could have been avoided. One life has been sadly, “snuffed out,” it seems unnecessarily!

I wrote some words in my first book, The Last Adventure of Life, about Unresolved Deaths including Suicide. I will share what I wrote here, because I believe it holds true:

Sometimes, things cannot be resolved in this lifetime, and people die under very challenging circumstances. At times, families and loved ones have to deal with suicidal deaths. Such moments are some of the most difficult ot live with afterward. Author and medium James Van Praagh suggests in his book, Talking to Heaven: A Medium’s Message of Life after Death (1997) that our thoughts and prayers are the best way to get through to such spirits.

First of all, we can send thoughts to those who have committed suicide to remind them to “stop wasting their energy by trying to get back into the physical world. They must realize that they have passed out of the physical body.” (p. 103) Our thoughts are the only way we can communicate with those who have left the earth, and apparently in some cases of suicide, as sometimes in other sudden deaths, the victim does not realize that they have actually died and left their physical vehicle behind. Secondly, we can send them thoughts of love, peace, joy, forgiveness, and light. We can help to bring comfort to their spirits and allow them to become more aware of their new situation.

I have learned that visualizing the violet flame encompassing all things purifies them. You might imagine sending or placing the purifying violet flame around the soul of your loved one. (If you are not familiar with the Violet Flame, you can find out more here.) Or you could visualize any negativity, either your own or your loved one’s, in the violet flame, allowing the negativity to purify and dissolve into pure white light. You could also envision taking your loved one to a beautiful place, like a magnificent garden, or beautiful healing waters where they can bathe, or someplace where you know they will find peace and comfort. You can then imagine them in this peaceful spot whenever you think of them, knowing and trusting that they, too, can and will find deep peace over time.

Most of all, it is important that the surviving loved ones do not blame themselves for what happened, or keep pondering the ‘what if” scenarios, or second-guessing why the death occurred in the way that it did. Even though guilt is almost unavoidable after a suicide, it is a crippling emotion, and it robs people of their confidence. So by all means, find creative ways to release any guilt you might be carrying around because of the suicide of a loved one. What has happened cannot be changed, and it is not your fault. (They had their own life and they chose to do what they chose to do – it was part of their free will) Let go of the past, and move forward into the future with abiding confidence and love. This is what your loved one would want for you, too.

I hope that these words may help you, as you ponder things unresolved in your life as well. As the all-encompassing   Melchizedek Prayer reads, “May there be Love, Truth, Beauty, Trust, Harmony and Peace for all living things everywhere! 

And if you desire some support in this area, please feel free to contact me, to talk, do energy work for release, etc.